How to Come to Terms with Fading Friendships

Are some of your friendships gently fading into nonexistence? Perhaps you’re realizing that one or both of you don’t value the friendship as much as you had hoped. Losing friends has been one of the most challenging learning curves of my quarter life phase, and I’m ready to share some insight.

Some of my high school friends were people I met when I was just four years old. For different reasons in each relationship, I rarely spoke to them by the time I was in my 3rd year of University. Some of those friendships were easier to let go of than others. I can now see that some of them came to an end for my own good, but the loss of others stung for a long time. I couldn’t understand how one minute I was talking to this person every single day and the next, we were lucky if we spoke once a month.

Here’s what I figured out…

I realized that some bonds require a time and a place.

If the time of your lives and the physical place you’re both in don’t jive, the friendship naturally fails. What was most painful for me in realizing this was that neither of us asked for the outcome or intentionally caused it. It just happened.

I also realized that ‘acceptance’ is your best strategy in dealing with the end…